Mary Wesley

Mary Aline Siepmann CBE (24 June 1912 – 30 December 2002), known by the pen name Mary Wesley, was an English novelist.

During her career, she was one of Britain's most successful novelists, selling three million copies of her books, including ten bestsellers in the last twenty years of her life.

Mary Aline Mynors Farmar was born in Englefield Green, Surrey, the third child of Colonel Harold Mynors Farmar, CMG, DSO, of Orchards, Bicknoller, Somerset, and his wife Violet Hyacinth, née Dalby, granddaughter of Sir William Bartlett Dalby.

As a child, she had a succession of 16 foreign governesses.

When she asked her mother why they kept on leaving, her mother reportedly told her: "Because none of them like you, darling."

Wesley had a lifelong complicated relationship with her family and especially with her mother, who had a sharp tongue.

Wesley's first husband was Charles Swinfen Eady, 2nd Baron Swinfen, with whom she had a son, Roger Swinfen Eady, 3rd Baron Swinfen; although her son Toby Eady, born in 1941, was initially known as the son of Lord Swinfen, Wesley subsequently admitted his father to be the Czech political scientist Heinz Otto Ziegler.

Toby Eady was eventually the literary agent of her biographer Patrick Marnham.

She next married Eric Siepmann and with him had a third son, William Siepmann.

Following the death of her father in 1961, her mother said: "I'm not going to let that lingering death happen to me. When the time comes I'm going to crawl to the Solent and swim out."

Wesley replied with feeling: "I'll help you".

Her family did not approve of her books.

Her brother called what she wrote "filth" and her sister, with whom she was no longer on speaking terms, strongly objected to The Camomile Lawn, claiming that some of the characters were based on their parents.

Wesley identified the appalling grandparents in Harnessing Peacocks, who bully the pregnant Hebe, as the nearest she came to a portrait of her own parents in old age.

Lewis Clive fell in love with Wesley and asked her to marry him.

In The Camomile Lawn, the character Oliver Ansty is a fictionalised version of Clive.

In 1970 Wesley was left impoverished by the death of Siepmann, and it was only then that she became an author, turning to writing as a way to restore her finances.

Only in the last year of her life did she agree to have her biography written.

She cooperated fully with Patrick Marnham, on the condition that nothing would be published before her death.

She provided her reminiscences from her sick bed, and commented: "Have you any idea of the pleasure of lying in bed for six months, talking about yourself to a very intelligent man? My deepest regret was that I was too old and ill to take him into bed with me."

She was appointed a Commander of the Order of the British Empire (CBE) in 1995.

Wesley died from cancer on 30 December 2002, aged 90, at her home in Totnes, Devon and was buried beside her second husband in the graveyard of Buckfast Abbey.

Her take on life reveals a sharp and critical eye which neatly dissects the idiosyncrasies of genteel England with humour, compassion and irony, detailing in particular sexual and emotional values.

Her style has been described as "arsenic without the old lace".

Others have described it as "Jane Austen plus sex", a description Wesley herself thought ridiculous.

As a woman who was liberated before her time Mary Wesley challenged social assumptions about the old, confessed to bad behaviour and recommended sex.

In doing so she smashed the stereotype of the disapproving, judgmental, past-it, old person.

This delighted the old and intrigued the young.

In Wesley's books there are some references to her own life, although she denied that her novels were autobiographical.

Her books usually take place in or around the everlasting house, the idyllic refuge, recalling her time with Siepmann, living in a remote cottage in the West Country.

The authorised biography (published in 2006) is entitled Wild Mary, a reference both to her childhood nickname and to her sex life as a young woman, when she had many lovers.

The biography holds nothing back.

As Wesley stated: "It was a flighty generation.... [W]e had been brought up so repressed. War freed us. We felt if we didn't do it now, we might never get another chance."

"It got to the state where one woke up in the morning, reached across the pillow and thought, 'Let's see. Who is it this time?'"

But Wesley finally did get tired of her wartime lifestyle, realizing that her way of life had become too excessive: "too many lovers, too much to drink...I was on my way to become a very nasty person".

When her son Toby Eady read the book, he was so amazed at how much he did not know about his mother that he did not speak to anyone for a week.

Late in life Wesley ordered her own coffin from a local craftswoman and asked it be finished in red Chinese lacquer.

She kept it as a coffee table for some time in her sitting room.

She suggested that she be photographed sitting up in it for a feature in the magazine Country Living, but the idea was politely declined.

Due to her association with the town Wesley was chosen in 2007 to appear on the 1 Totnes pound note.